I wanted to write a story from my life to submit to an upcoming Chicken Soup book on miracles, and this is what came. Lisa asked me to share it here as she returns to this site often to read all of our words...the Sea of Miracles
for Jesse and Susannahby Kelly Salasin
"And as to me, I know nothing else but miracles." Walt Whitman
I want to write about miracles, but I don’t know how. There must be an outstanding event from my blessed life to retell, but no single moment splashes up for attention. Has my life been without the miraculous? Indeed, no. It has been so flooded with miracles that I cannot distinguish a single one... until I take what comes, and oddly, this is it:
This past winter, a young friend of ours died of Leukemia. His name was Jesse and he was 19 years old. My family and I rode out the month of December with him in prayers and rituals and tears.
Tucked under our Christmas tree this year was a book entitled, The Way WE Work. Driven to comprehend blood and bone marrow as Jesse’s deteriorated, our bedtime reading ritual was heightened. We delved into a greater understanding of this amazing human body, and I was struck- STRUCK- by how absolutely miraculous our bodies are. In comparison, the miracle of Jesse's recovery seemed a simple request.
When we got word, just after the holiday, that "Jesse wasn’t going to make it", I wondered about prayers. So many had been sent from so far that I didn’t understand how they could be left unanswered. Were they gathered there outside the hospital doors, unable to get in? Did the Critical Care Unit refuse them? Did God or Jesse have some other unimaginable plans?
My son Aidan, age 8, couldn’t bear the news and ran up to his room sobbing. We all joined him on his bed in silence until he lifted his head from his pillow and demanded, "How can they be sure Jesse's going to die?!"
In the face of all of our bright hopes, it was heartbreaking thing to answer. "Death is like a birth," I began, tentatively. "There are signs that a baby is coming and there are signs that a body is ending. No one can be certain of the exact time, but they know when it is imminent."
Through all of our tears, I whispered again that death and birth were- both- truly miraculous; and though immeasurably painful, it was also quite beautiful that Jesse’s mother and father would be with him when he left this world as they were when they welcomed him into it.
As is the Jewish custom, friends and family sit with the body after death until the time of burial. At a hour when we would typically be heading up to bed, my family walked outside into the hushed snow and drove twenty minutes to town. We arrived at the funeral home just before 9:00 under a bright full moon and took our place beside the pine box that held Jesse’s body. We brought Rumi and lullabies and sat in sacred silence before turning over Jesse’s care to his grandmother and aunts.
It was a magical night, holy, like Christmas Eve, perched as it was on the threshold of life and death. The next bitterly cold afternoon, we stood atop a mountain and buried the beautiful box with Jesse under the earth. Shovel upon shovel upon fistful and tears. Aidan snuck a clump of dirt from the pile and brought it home with him through the deep snow. We lit the yellow candles we had burned for Jesse each night since the New Year; and this time, we let them burn out.
Emptied in our grief, we did not find the one shining miracle we had wanted; that one defining moment that could shape a story so spectacularly such as this for you. It’s the story I had imagined retelling... the one where Jesse recovers and goes off to college like he dreamed. Because of prayers. Because of a miracle.
Who knows how miracles work... when they come and when they don't! Isn't it the job of a miracle to fit our expectations?! Aren't miracles measured by specific outcomes, or is it by something else... by their effect, maybe?
If the latter is the truest account, than Jesse’s life and Jesse’s death were one and the same- miraculous.
As I type these words this morning, snow falls and falls and falls upon soft spring roads. Pondering life through my tears, I don't know where to end this unlikely tale of miracles. Until the phone rings.
It is my sister, three thousand miles away, announcing the birth of her daughter, Susannah.
Another miracle splashes into my life...
This past winter, a young friend of ours died of Leukemia. His name was Jesse and he was 19 years old. My family and I rode out the month of December with him in prayers and rituals and tears.
Tucked under our Christmas tree this year was a book entitled, The Way WE Work. Driven to comprehend blood and bone marrow as Jesse’s deteriorated, our bedtime reading ritual was heightened. We delved into a greater understanding of this amazing human body, and I was struck- STRUCK- by how absolutely miraculous our bodies are. In comparison, the miracle of Jesse's recovery seemed a simple request.
When we got word, just after the holiday, that "Jesse wasn’t going to make it", I wondered about prayers. So many had been sent from so far that I didn’t understand how they could be left unanswered. Were they gathered there outside the hospital doors, unable to get in? Did the Critical Care Unit refuse them? Did God or Jesse have some other unimaginable plans?
My son Aidan, age 8, couldn’t bear the news and ran up to his room sobbing. We all joined him on his bed in silence until he lifted his head from his pillow and demanded, "How can they be sure Jesse's going to die?!"
In the face of all of our bright hopes, it was heartbreaking thing to answer. "Death is like a birth," I began, tentatively. "There are signs that a baby is coming and there are signs that a body is ending. No one can be certain of the exact time, but they know when it is imminent."
Through all of our tears, I whispered again that death and birth were- both- truly miraculous; and though immeasurably painful, it was also quite beautiful that Jesse’s mother and father would be with him when he left this world as they were when they welcomed him into it.
As is the Jewish custom, friends and family sit with the body after death until the time of burial. At a hour when we would typically be heading up to bed, my family walked outside into the hushed snow and drove twenty minutes to town. We arrived at the funeral home just before 9:00 under a bright full moon and took our place beside the pine box that held Jesse’s body. We brought Rumi and lullabies and sat in sacred silence before turning over Jesse’s care to his grandmother and aunts.
It was a magical night, holy, like Christmas Eve, perched as it was on the threshold of life and death. The next bitterly cold afternoon, we stood atop a mountain and buried the beautiful box with Jesse under the earth. Shovel upon shovel upon fistful and tears. Aidan snuck a clump of dirt from the pile and brought it home with him through the deep snow. We lit the yellow candles we had burned for Jesse each night since the New Year; and this time, we let them burn out.
Emptied in our grief, we did not find the one shining miracle we had wanted; that one defining moment that could shape a story so spectacularly such as this for you. It’s the story I had imagined retelling... the one where Jesse recovers and goes off to college like he dreamed. Because of prayers. Because of a miracle.
Who knows how miracles work... when they come and when they don't! Isn't it the job of a miracle to fit our expectations?! Aren't miracles measured by specific outcomes, or is it by something else... by their effect, maybe?
If the latter is the truest account, than Jesse’s life and Jesse’s death were one and the same- miraculous.
As I type these words this morning, snow falls and falls and falls upon soft spring roads. Pondering life through my tears, I don't know where to end this unlikely tale of miracles. Until the phone rings.
It is my sister, three thousand miles away, announcing the birth of her daughter, Susannah.
Another miracle splashes into my life...
